The Gay Culture is Sick & Sickening

It baffles me every time I see people—actual people—defending the 56 men involved in the gay sex “party” that took place last week in Jakarta. Unsurprisingly, most of the defenders are gay men themselves. This fiasco even made its way to foreign news outlets, where the comments were flooded with foreign gay men shaming the Indonesian police and the country for cracking down on the incident.

This shouldn’t surprise anyone actually. The gays have always been the community that celebrates various sexual kinks and often, perversion. The gay culture, as it stands today, is overwhelmingly defined by sex. Bathhouses, saunas, circuit parties, and casual hookups are not just fringe activities—they are central to the gay identity. It’s as if sex is the only thing that holds the community together. And let’s be honest: when you strip away the rainbow flags and pride parades, what’s left is a culture obsessed with physical gratification, often at the expense of dignity, health, and societal respect.

I might get heat from people I know personally—people who perhaps participate in these kinds of activities. Let me be clear: I am not against sexual exploration between consenting adults, however, I do think there should be a sense of civility to every action and there should be a limit to that one shall not cross. Fifty-six men in a single hotel room, engaging in indiscriminate sexual acts, is not just crossing the line—it’s obliterating it.

What makes humans different from animals? My father always said it’s reason, self-control, and a good pair of pants—three things these 56 men clearly lacked that night. Did I equate them to animals? No. I believe they are worse.

the busted 56-men gay sex party in Jakarta

The gay community in Indonesia is often viewed with disdain, and incidents like this only reinforce that perception. While some may cry “homophobia,” the truth is that this portrayal is not entirely unfounded. Gay men are often depicted as sex-crazed, reckless, and morally bankrupt. And honestly, can you blame society for thinking that way when headlines about orgies, bathhouse raids, and HIV outbreaks dominate the news year after year, is it any wonder that people see the gay community as a problem?

Let’s talk about the numbers, and I’m going to take the US statistics first as they are readily available.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), gay and bisexual men account for 69% of new HIV diagnoses in the United States, despite representing only 2% of the population. In 2020, the CDC also reported that 46% of gonorrhea cases among men were from the gays. Syphilis rates are even more alarming, with gay and bisexual men making up 53% of primary and secondary syphilis cases. These numbers aren’t just statistics—they are a damning indictment of a community that has turned promiscuity into a lifestyle.

What about Indonesia? The trend seems to mirror everywhere in the world.

In 2024, majority of cases of sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV and even Mpox are among the gay and bisexual men in Indonesia. Similar trends can be found around the world. Let’s not pretend that this isn’t reflective of the culture.

Governments around the world have poured billions into subsidizing anti-HIV drugs like PrEP and ARVs, hoping to curb the epidemic. Yet, year after year, the numbers tell the same story: gay men continue to dominate the charts when it comes to sexually transmitted infections. In 2021, the World Health Organization (WHO) reported that gay and bisexual men are 28 times more likely to contract HIV than the general population. This isn’t just a public health crisis—it’s a cultural one.

Governments must realize tackling HIV infection solely without acknowledging this culture is futile. No matter how many condoms are distributed and HIV medication subsidized, the matter of the fact is, most of them don’t give a damn because the whole community / culture is so tolerant of the exploit and the nastiness under the guise of “sexual liberation”.

And let’s not forget the emotional toll of this hypersexualized lifestyle has on the community, - loneliness and depression are rampant in the gay community. Many argue that this is due to social isolation from a homophobic heterosexual majority.

I strongly disagree.

The real culprit is the culture itself—a culture that prioritizes fleeting physical encounters over meaningful human connections. Imagine living a life where your worth is measured by your desirability, and instant gratification, where intimacy is reduced to nothing more than a transaction. It’s a hollow existence, one that leaves you craving something real but never quite finding it. No wonder so many gay men are depressed and finding themselves desperate of any sort of interaction they can find.

So no, I do not condone orgies or sex parties like the ones that happened because the repercussions are greater than their right to “sexual liberation”. Some of the participants are married to women, and perhaps, many might even be in relationship with women. Imagine the diseases that get passed around to these women. What about these women’s rights to their sexual liberation from diseases?

I am not against the common sense gays, the leftovers with a sense of decency, civility and humility, the ones that don’t make their sexuality as their whole personality, the ones who don’t feel shame nor pride of their sexual orientation, the ones who understand and remain respectful of the rules and order of humanity, the ones that refuse to bow down to their lustful nature as a way of life and choose to rise above it like real men do.

I am against the perverted way of life that has been normalized by the gay community while at the same time crying victims that they are marginalized by society. Open relationships, polyamory, sex parties, etc. Everybody, especially the gays, should be against that.

The truth is, until the gay community confronts its unhealthy fixation on sex, it will never earn the respect it so desperately craves. Respect isn’t given—it’s earned. And how can you expect society to respect a community that consistently engages in behavior that is not only self-destructive but also a public health hazard and repulsive?

The gay community needs to take a long, hard look in the mirror and tell themselves: We are the problem.